Many years ago, in My research to be a better Domme, I was looking on the web for a rule book, a guideline perhaps that someone had written on how to be a Dominant Female.

I think at the time, My reasoning in doing so was I had been getting a lot of “backlash” from other females about My style, the things I said, the things I did.

That is when the light bulb in my head went off.

I started thinking, why was I looking for rules, and how to, when in fact I already knew.

Its simple really, and very basic.

There are no rules to being a Dominant female, you MAKE the rules.

Why on earth would I want to follow someone elses ideals of what a Dominant female should be like or act like? I have no desire to be like anyone else, march to someone elses drum, I like the beat of my own drum, even if My beat is bitter to some peoples ears.

I have looked up to some awesome women, wanted to have some of their qualities, or have some of the things they have, but I learned from them to make myself better, smarter.

I know what I like, I know what makes me happy, and I make the choices. Even if my choices are not always the best, or smartest, they are mine.

If you take away the Mistress/Dominatrix title, you have just a basic vanilla woman.

All woman have it in them and some use it, some do not. In my opinion, society programs women to not think for themselves, to conform to a standard that someone else thinks is appropriate for women.

In my opinion that leads to angry, repressed, unhappy women. And as you guys know when your woman is not happy, your life becomes unpleasant. [laughs]

It boils down to choices. Many women choose not to rock the boat, accept things and just float by. While there are others who get a giant rush from tipping the boat over from jumping so hard. You have to find your own groove.

My advice to other females who are seeking to learn how to be a woman in charge, a Dominant Female, respect yourself, respect others, and follow your heart. Life is to short not to.

Find your own happiness and bliss, and take your negative, jealous energy and use it to fix what you are missing in yourself.

Stop downing or judging other females for their choices, just because it is not something you choose to do, or even understand.  Your life path and theirs may not be the same, but one is not better than the other even if you decide to exalt yourself and believe otherwise.

Of course a sexy pair of boots and a nice crop can’t hurt! [Smile]

I got to thinking about games today.

Everyone plays them throughout their life- fun ones, good ones, bad ones, boring ones, and the exciting ones.

When I was younger, there were board games, the ones you set up and play. Some I enjoyed, others I did not.

The first one that comes to mind is Clue. I was never much into that one, but played it on a few occasions. I guess playing detective was not fun for me.

Monopoly was another I played, but it was not a favorite. I did not dislike it,  I just had more fun pretending I could have the money to buy lots of purses and shoes.

Then there is the jigsaw puzzles, however I would get bored with those very quickly,  or maybe it was my lack of patience. At any rate I left a few undone in my lifetime.

One that I really liked to play was the game of Life.

You never know how it would play out, you could have bad things happen like flat tires, and big tax bills. Doctors bills collage bills. But around the turns on the board good things would happen too.

Babies, marriage, trips, and of course cash prizes, and ending up at millionaire mansion.

Another that comes to mind is pictionary.  I was pretty good at this one,  my creative mind could figure most things out. There were those times where my mind just could not grasp what some people were drawing.

A few more that deserve mention are, trivial pursuit, because any knowledge is good, pointless or not.

Outburst the Game of Verbal Explosions, this one was fun because I have a mouth and I am not afraid to use it!

Boggle, timed word games to boggle the mind.

kismet, chance vs strategy.

Now that I am older, I still enjoy games, but more of the adult kind, and typically ones that I have made up for my own twisted amusement.

I know not everyone would be down for playing sissy dress up, or ballbusting till you drop, or even peg the strapon IN the bitch.

Here is another one that I enjoy, I will share it with you. It is designed for a closet sissy who wants to spoil, drink, and indulge in naughty behavior. Seriously amusing, very lucrative ,  and super degrading for the sissy or man slut.

What is needed:
* 1 super uber sissy lipstick
* 1 pair of sissy panties
* 1 or 2, 12 pack bottles of your favorite beer
* one very large limited credit card,
* a telephone,
* various insertable toys
Make your slut paint those lips, open a beer and start to get the “cock bottle” happy.
Have the sissy lick and suck that cock substitute. Humiliate the sissy while he is performing oral services to the bottle.
Make sure to tell the sissy to have another beer handy, then at the right moment, have the bitch slam the top to make the “cock” bottle cum. If you have ever done any drinking of beer you know that slamming the top of the beer it starts to spew out.
Now you can give the slut little tasks to do, and if  he fails, he has to make another “cock” bottle spew.
Having the slut do this on cam is even more amusing because then you can see it live, and make him line up a few and take care of multiple “cock” bottles at once. A beer Bukakke
Oh and on a side note if your bitch has a good gag reflex, make sure to get the long necks!

So readers, what games did you or do you enjoy playing? Adult or otherwise.

Apr 07, 2006

It seems I have inspired a few males to open a few closet doors and add to their skeleton piles, or attempt to anyway.

A few men had questions regarding submission because it was new to them, but they were “drawn” to it.

One of them even asked if being submissive means you are just a pathetic, weak man.

Outsiders looking in and not knowing will view submission as a weak act. If you are a man used to being in control all the time, and ruling like the male you were taught to be, yes you would have problems submitting at first.

IN MY OPINION It takes a strong person to submit, you have to be pretty secure in who you are to give your control to someone. Men that you would never imagine to be submissive are.

There are, of course, the ones that are not really submissive at all, just kinky. You need to figure out which one you are.

Yes, there are some very pathetic type submissive men whom truly come across as girlie men with no spine. That is what they want, and perhaps need. That is between them and their Mistresses.

Remember this, there really is no rule book in Dominance between consenting people.

I make My own rules, just like other Female Dominants. No matter what kind of man you think you are, when a woman like Me gets control, even a tiny bit, you become the man she wants. Even when you do not even see it happening.

Do not forget that a big part in this game of D/s is in the MIND. Hottest phrase ever, “Please Mistress, fuck My mind!” Once your mind is where I want it to be, the rest is like putty in My hands!

I do tend to prefer the big tough ones Myself but it is My personal preference.

I GET OFF on taking the big manly man whom others fear and listen to, and putting him on his knees. Taking him places that only I CAN, because he knows his place with Me.

Of course that is a purely sadistic sexual lust for Me and the things I can do to that body. [Smiles]

To the men asking the above question, it seems by you asking Me that question it means you worry to much what others think about you. I need to take away that male pride, and you will be whatever I want you to be.

To answer that question does submissive make you a pathetic pansy? Only if I want you to be! [Sadistic Giggle]

Capture the mind and the body will follow………….