Many years ago, in My research to be a better Domme, I was looking on the web for a rule book, a guideline perhaps that someone had written on how to be a Dominant Female.
I think at the time, My reasoning in doing so was I had been getting a lot of “backlash” from other females about My style, the things I said, the things I did.
That is when the light bulb in my head went off.
I started thinking, why was I looking for rules, and how to, when in fact I already knew.
Its simple really, and very basic.
There are no rules to being a Dominant female, you MAKE the rules.
Why on earth would I want to follow someone elses ideals of what a Dominant female should be like or act like? I have no desire to be like anyone else, march to someone elses drum, I like the beat of my own drum, even if My beat is bitter to some peoples ears.
I have looked up to some awesome women, wanted to have some of their qualities, or have some of the things they have, but I learned from them to make myself better, smarter.
I know what I like, I know what makes me happy, and I make the choices. Even if my choices are not always the best, or smartest, they are mine.
If you take away the Mistress/Dominatrix title, you have just a basic vanilla woman.
All woman have it in them and some use it, some do not. In my opinion, society programs women to not think for themselves, to conform to a standard that someone else thinks is appropriate for women.
In my opinion that leads to angry, repressed, unhappy women. And as you guys know when your woman is not happy, your life becomes unpleasant. [laughs]
It boils down to choices. Many women choose not to rock the boat, accept things and just float by. While there are others who get a giant rush from tipping the boat over from jumping so hard. You have to find your own groove.
My advice to other females who are seeking to learn how to be a woman in charge, a Dominant Female, respect yourself, respect others, and follow your heart. Life is to short not to.
Find your own happiness and bliss, and take your negative, jealous energy and use it to fix what you are missing in yourself.
Stop downing or judging other females for their choices, just because it is not something you choose to do, or even understand. Your life path and theirs may not be the same, but one is not better than the other even if you decide to exalt yourself and believe otherwise.
Of course a sexy pair of boots and a nice crop can’t hurt! [Smile]