In this age of technology, internet, television, cell phones, we have information in an instant. Unfortunately, the information is not always correct, and people take it for fact with out educating themselves.

Even I am guilty of it, it happens.

The number one misconception about a female such as myself is that we are “man hating bitches” who obviously were screwed over by a man and this is how we get back at them.

I have decided it is ignorance, I mean after all, anytime they have ever shown a Dominatrix/Mistress in mainstream television, normally they are yelling and beating up a man. See, The safe word.

That would be the stereotypical Domme image, and “literally” kicking a mans ass and yelling at him was something I myself rarely did. Yes I got to, but there are way more activities and games besides yell, beat, repeat.

I do not hate men, and from all the talented Dommes I have met they do not hate men either.

There is far more talent and skill required than just swinging a paddle, and yelling out, “your a loser” at random men.

Most of what we do is mental. We take the mind on a journey, and the body follows. We use the senses to expand your mind, get in your mind, play with your mind.

Phone sessions or live ones, I enjoy them both because I got to play with the biggest sex organ of all, YOUR BRAIN!!!

No I do not hate men, how could I hate my man toys? [Evil Smile]

Ladies, do you have a misconception you would like to share?

Many years ago, I started using the term “Licentious Domination” to describe my style. If you do not know what the word licentious means, here is a definition from the dictionary,

1.
sexually unrestrained; lascivious; libertine; lewd.
2.
unrestrained by law or general morality; lawless; immoral.
3.
going beyond customary or proper bounds or limits; disregarding rules.

Now then, the word “implies” a very bad person by general societies standards, so why on earth would I choose it?

For me the words, lewd, immoral, and sin, are like phrases such as “rules regarding sexuality” and “proper bounds”. They are open to interpretation and are very Grey to me.

The three main topics that I was always know for, and pretty good at is, in no certain order, forced bi, however I use the term force “loosely”. Racial humiliation, and of course making fun of the small peen boys!

All three of these “taboo” topics are hot buttons with a lot of people good and bad. I have ruffled many a feather by writing, talking, and doing any one of these.

Lets take the forced bi first, shall we?

This was my “hottest” topic, meaning the pole smokers were abundant.

Most asked question, if I want to suck a cock does this make me gay? I have a wife, I love females but I have this urge to “choke on one”.

Next is racial humiliation. This one I know angers a lot of people, since we are taught “typically” to not discriminate against people of ethnicity. This one opens wounds on people whom never even had the wound to begin with.

The last one is male ego bashing, translation; small penis humiliation. What is the fastest way to wound a male ego? By making fun of his penis size. Of course!

Now these are just a few topics that were high on the list, but the list is long. It goes on with other things that would make some peoples jaw drop.

However I LEARNED many many years ago that peoples sexuality, including my own, is not open to judgment from other people. That everyone has their “thing” and we are not all the same. Nor does it define us as people, as we are all sexual beings.

Maybe someday, in the vision of my perfect world, people will not be singled out for their differences in sexuality. That people will not DISCRIMINATE because of ones sexual preferences.

Umm because last I checked we were all born with sexuality, that is not a choice.
But until people “wake up” a bit, there will be women like me, talking to and seeing the Doctors, Lawyers, Politicians, Clergy, bankers, plumbers, teachers, all with their skeletons in the closet that I am “special” enough to see.

Now then who has some Licentious traits they want to talk about? [Smiles]

I have been off balance and generally just sucking at this for a while now.

This meaning my website, updates, taking calls, etc .

Since I had this “life altering”  360 experience, I feel like Stella trying to get her groove back. My mojo is seriously shelved i think.

Yes I am around, yes I will make more of an effort to keep this up and talk once again about things that amuse me, and just have more fun damn it!

Many years ago, in My research to be a better Domme, I was looking on the web for a rule book, a guideline perhaps that someone had written on how to be a Dominant Female.

I think at the time, My reasoning in doing so was I had been getting a lot of “backlash” from other females about My style, the things I said, the things I did.

That is when the light bulb in my head went off.

I started thinking, why was I looking for rules, and how to, when in fact I already knew.

Its simple really, and very basic.

There are no rules to being a Dominant female, you MAKE the rules.

Why on earth would I want to follow someone elses ideals of what a Dominant female should be like or act like? I have no desire to be like anyone else, march to someone elses drum, I like the beat of my own drum, even if My beat is bitter to some peoples ears.

I have looked up to some awesome women, wanted to have some of their qualities, or have some of the things they have, but I learned from them to make myself better, smarter.

I know what I like, I know what makes me happy, and I make the choices. Even if my choices are not always the best, or smartest, they are mine.

If you take away the Mistress/Dominatrix title, you have just a basic vanilla woman.

All woman have it in them and some use it, some do not. In my opinion, society programs women to not think for themselves, to conform to a standard that someone else thinks is appropriate for women.

In my opinion that leads to angry, repressed, unhappy women. And as you guys know when your woman is not happy, your life becomes unpleasant. [laughs]

It boils down to choices. Many women choose not to rock the boat, accept things and just float by. While there are others who get a giant rush from tipping the boat over from jumping so hard. You have to find your own groove.

My advice to other females who are seeking to learn how to be a woman in charge, a Dominant Female, respect yourself, respect others, and follow your heart. Life is to short not to.

Find your own happiness and bliss, and take your negative, jealous energy and use it to fix what you are missing in yourself.

Stop downing or judging other females for their choices, just because it is not something you choose to do, or even understand.  Your life path and theirs may not be the same, but one is not better than the other even if you decide to exalt yourself and believe otherwise.

Of course a sexy pair of boots and a nice crop can’t hurt! [Smile]

Apr 07, 2006

It seems I have inspired a few males to open a few closet doors and add to their skeleton piles, or attempt to anyway.

A few men had questions regarding submission because it was new to them, but they were “drawn” to it.

One of them even asked if being submissive means you are just a pathetic, weak man.

Outsiders looking in and not knowing will view submission as a weak act. If you are a man used to being in control all the time, and ruling like the male you were taught to be, yes you would have problems submitting at first.

IN MY OPINION It takes a strong person to submit, you have to be pretty secure in who you are to give your control to someone. Men that you would never imagine to be submissive are.

There are, of course, the ones that are not really submissive at all, just kinky. You need to figure out which one you are.

Yes, there are some very pathetic type submissive men whom truly come across as girlie men with no spine. That is what they want, and perhaps need. That is between them and their Mistresses.

Remember this, there really is no rule book in Dominance between consenting people.

I make My own rules, just like other Female Dominants. No matter what kind of man you think you are, when a woman like Me gets control, even a tiny bit, you become the man she wants. Even when you do not even see it happening.

Do not forget that a big part in this game of D/s is in the MIND. Hottest phrase ever, “Please Mistress, fuck My mind!” Once your mind is where I want it to be, the rest is like putty in My hands!

I do tend to prefer the big tough ones Myself but it is My personal preference.

I GET OFF on taking the big manly man whom others fear and listen to, and putting him on his knees. Taking him places that only I CAN, because he knows his place with Me.

Of course that is a purely sadistic sexual lust for Me and the things I can do to that body. [Smiles]

To the men asking the above question, it seems by you asking Me that question it means you worry to much what others think about you. I need to take away that male pride, and you will be whatever I want you to be.

To answer that question does submissive make you a pathetic pansy? Only if I want you to be! [Sadistic Giggle]

Capture the mind and the body will follow………….

I came across these fun stress balls the other day called Stressticles and I was seriously amused.

What is a better way to relieve stress than by squeezing balls?

M’kay,  the real thing is so much better,  but I think every woman needs a set just because.

You know,  it could help with things like road rage, and irritation with stupid people. I bet it would make a nice hacky sack type thing for kicking balls too!

They seem to be out of stock though damn it, someone find me a set of stressticles!!!

Do you know what today is?

Want a hint?

On this day 37 years ago, a Goddess was born.

So now do you know what today is?

Happy Birthday to Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Shockingly, I have made it another year on this Tiny Blue Dot [Thats plant earth for the slow peeps].

I am hoping for something deviant and naughty tonight, but in the meantime, my phone line is on so call and sing to Me.

All you sissy bitches get dressed up in your best, it is a SPECIAL day after all.

Oh and if you want to shop for a gift, hit my wishlist to get me a little something.

Also a big yayyyyyy and a thank you to the ones whom have shopped and spoiled me recently—-bootbitch, sb, nute, mutt, fatboy, and niglet. [Smiles]

I finally got a twitter account.

Not really so much for me to tweet, but to read others that might be of interest to me

So readers, if there are any out there, do you have a twitter account?

Are there any good tweeters that you follow?

Drop some comments because my inquiring mind wants to know.

Everyone is a little crazy and dysfunctional, but why are people so quick to slap mental disorders for everything?

I find this very disturbing.

It seems if you like things slightly different sexually then you have a mental disorder. The disorder would be called paraphilia.

Whats unfortunate is they have lumped together a bunch of what they deem as “abnormal” sexual acts and slapped a name to it.

How nice is it that fetish people are lumped into the very same group as pediphilles?

I wonder what group of douchbags got to decide this? Read on…..

Paraphilias are sometimes referred to as sexual deviations or perversions. Paraphilias include fantasies, behaviors, or sexual urges focusing on unusual objects, activities, or situations. Paraphilias include:

* Sexual urges or sexual fantasies with non-human objects
* Sexual behaviors with non-human objects
* Sexual behaviors involving humiliation or suffering of oneself or another person
* Adult sexual behavior that involves children or nonconsenting adults

Some of the common paraphilias include:

* Exhibitionism
* Fetishism
* Frotteurism
* Pedophilia
* Masochism
* Sadism
* Transvestitism
* Voyeurism

* Exhibitionism: Exhibitionism is a tendency to sexually expose oneself to others. For example, a man’s behavior is exhibitionistic when he exposes part his naked body, usually his genitals, to a total stranger. The sexual behavior is almost always limited to the genital exposure, and the person may make no further harmful advances toward the stranger. Most often exhibitionism begins during adolescence and continues into adulthood.

* Fetishism: People with a fetish experience sexual urges and behavior which are associated with non-living objects. For example, the object of the fetish could be an article of female clothing, like female underwear. Usually the fetish begins in adolescence and tends to be quite chronic into adult life.

* Frotteurism: Men have a paraphilia called Frotteurism when the focus of their sexual urges are related to the touching or rubbing of their body against a non-consenting, unfamiliar woman. Usually the male rubs his genital area against the female. Most commonly, the man chooses to attack in a crowded public location and then he disappears into the throng of people. Frotteurism usually begins in adolescence and the abnormal behavior tends to decrease when the man reaches his late twenties.

* Pedophilia: A pedophile is a person, most frequently a man, who focuses his sexual fantasies and behavior toward children. People who enjoy child pornography or “kiddie porn” are pedophiles. Some pedophiles are sexually attracted only toward children and are not at all attracted toward adults. Pedophilia is usually a chronic condition.

When a pedophile becomes sexually active with a child he/she may:
o Undress the child
o Encourage the child to watch them masturbate
o Touch or fondle the child’s genitals
o Forcefully perform sexual acts on the child

* Masochism: Masochism is the getting of pleasure, often sexual, from being hurt or humiliated. Sometimes the masochistic acts are limited to verbal humiliation or blindfolding. However, masochistic behavior might include being bound or beaten. Masochism may become even more harmful, however, when a person permits another to use arm or leg restraints accompanied by acts of beating, whipping, or cutting.

* Sadism: Sadism is deriving pleasure, often sexual, from mistreating others. Like other paraphilias, some people have fantasies which are sadistic, but they never act upon them. Also, some people have sexual urges of a sadistic nature, and they find a willing partner who agrees to participate in the sadistic activity. There are people, however, who have sadistic sexual urges who find others whom they victimize with their behavior. Some of the severe activities involved in sexual sadism include burning, beating, stabbing, raping, and killing. Usually the thoughts and/or behaviors of sexual sadism begin in adolescence or early adulthood. The behaviors are not only chronic, but they usually increase in severity with time.

* Transvestitism: Cross-dressing by heterosexual males is called transvestic fetishism or transvestitism. The male with this fetish usually has a variety of female clothes that he uses to cross-dress. While some males will wear only one special piece of female apparel, others fully dress as a female and use full facial make-up to achieve a total female appearance. Often this disorder begins in childhood. It tends to be chronic in nature.

* Voyeurism: Voyeurism is seeking sexual pleasure by secretly observing another. Another name for the behavior is “peeping” or “peeping Tom”. The activity brings on sexual excitement and may conclude with masturbation by the voyeur. Voyeurism usually starts in adolescence and tends to persist into adulthood.

So there you have it, if you come to this website then you must be a paraphilia.

Yikes, I guess that makes me one too.

Well I already knew I was a little “different”,  so call me and we can ride the crazy train together, ALL ABOARD!!!

Here are a few songs I am liking right now, just thought I would share the good tunes.
Enjoy!

Ain’t No Rest For The Wicked

WRONG

Sound Of Madness

One Day